I was reading a friend's blog, and I came across on her research about few ways what to do and what not to do while dating a girl.
Here, read and learn!
Its a shame, really! Some guys are perfect until it comes to the question of timing and actions.
Here are some do’s and don’t’s I've recollected from experience.
Rule no 1 :
DON’T EVER EVER EVER, NO MATTER HOW GOODLOOKING OR CHARMING YOU THINK YOU MAY BE, SAY I LOVE YOU ON YOUR FIRST DATE.
Telling a girl you love her on the first date is like telling her “hey babe, I’m a liar. Marry me?”
Who do you think your fooling? It’ll take more than a date to cultivate anything close to love and to pretend you actually do love her over small lunch talk…ergh..NEXT!
Rule no 2 :
IF YOU WERE DIMWITTED ENOUGH TO TELL A GIRL THAT YOU LOVE HER ON YOUR FIRST DATE AND NOT GET A REPLY, (thank you does not count as a decent reply) DON’T ASK HER IF SHE LIKES YOU BACK.
Now really. At this point I’m wondering whether to sprint as fast as possible away from this guy or to knock him out with a dinner plate. I believe “thank you” is a polite way of saying “hey I don’t love you back but since your paying for dinner, I’m just gonna go right ahead and say thank you instead”
If she likes you, she’ll drop a hint. If you like her, drop a hint back. I said hint NOT a nuclear bomb. This should be mutual..no forcing should be apart of any relationship.
Rule no 3 :
DO NOT DECLARE YOUR UNDYING LOVE FOR HER BEFORE THE TWO OF YOU ARE EVEN TOGETHER.
I absolutely don’t get this type of men. Before you actually officially start dating, the friendship point is incredibly important. Try not to get too much feelings involved that it might blur your vision of friendship.
(This one’s a bit tricky. I admit I’ve fallen into the “I don’t think I can live without you” trap once or twice before but there’s a huge difference between letting your girl know that your taking the relationship seriously and telling a girl you want to have her babies.)
How are you suppose to get to know your future girlfriend when all you can think about is how you can never live without her. Remember your trying to win her, not scare her into a life-binding contract with you for eternity.
One way NOT to do this is by declaring your undying love to her. You want to let her know you care, not that your ready to jump in front of a bus for her. That may be a lil too deep for the start of a relationship and might make her feel pressured to love you back when she might not.
Rule no 4 :
KEEP THE MYSTERY GOING.
So the two of you had dinner and had a great time. Your dying to see her again…DON’T SHOW IT! You can sit at home plotting on ways to “coincidentally” bump into each other but just don’t let her know ;)
Where’s the fun when you don’t have to work for it right?
Let her linger in the thoughts of your previous date until she’s begging to get your call.(don’t leave her begging too long. You’ll be sorry if she hopped into someone’s arm cause the hopeless idiot she went out with never called)
Its all about the timing. Calling her right away wont give her time to miss you. Remember that absence makes the heart grow fonder. Wait a day or two then message her or give her some signal of life.
Its sad to see a great guy make a move too fast. It kills the adventurousness of your courting period. You don’t want your relationship to be routine cause you’ll be bored in 18 days and wondering why u never took my advice.
Which makes me come to..
Rule no 5 :
WHEN YOU SAY YOUR GONNA CALL. MEAN IT.
Some men have the tendency of ending their calls with “I’ll call you later” instead of ”goodbye”..
I don’t know about other women, but there’s nothing I hate more then empty promises. And when you say your gonna call..i take that as an appointment. Subconsciously, I’ll be waiting for your call and when I receive that imaginary call from my mind telling me what a loser I was for waiting, I’ll take revenge. Revenge meaning I’ll secretly be plotting on ways to be mean to you or you’ll never hear from me again(depending on how long I waited and how anxious I was to hear from you)
Rule no 6 :
IF SHE SAYS “I’M BUSY” AND CONVENIENTLY FORGETS TO ADD “CAN YOU CALL ME BACK”,
THAT MEANS SHE DOESN’T WANT TO TALK TO YOU.
It’s the cold hard truth that some people might find hard to understand. If she wants to talk to you, she’ll find a way eventually. If you call her 8 times a day and all eight phone conversation cant hold up for a good 5 minutes, that means you should stop calling her so often so you can go to your bedroom and pathetically list down potential conversation starters.
And who in the right mind calls a person he/she likes, 16 times a day. It doesn’t make sense. Its like you’re constantly trying to keep an eye on her. Give the girl some space already; you’re not her mother.
And if she really likes you, she’ll make time out of her busy schedule to talk to you. A woman would stop the world from rotating just so she could hold up a conversation with the “chosen one”. Seriously
Rule no 7 :
DON’T EVER TELL HER THAT SHE LOOKS YOUNGER THAN SHE ACTUALLY IS UNLESS SHE’S ANYTHING ABOVE THE AGE OF 45.
A guy I once went on a date with told me he thought I was actually 14. well guess what? That was our first and last date.
That’s right. Infact, leave age out of your conversation as much as possible, especially on your first date. Afterall, age is just a number.
A woman doesn’t want to be commented on how old she looks, no matter how much you think your complimenting her. just stick to general terms like beautiful and pretty.(if she’s actually beautiful or pretty that is.
Rule no 8 :
DON’T COMPLEMENT HER IF ITS NOT GENUINE.
Some women can tell if your lying through your nostrils and ofcourse there are some women blonde enough to believe the things you men come up with.
It’s a win win situation. Door A leads to a complete an honest relationship where you can tell your wife whether she looks extra fat in that green summer dress(which mind you, you better not tell her . somethings should be left sugar coated whether detected or not)and how you prefer her in the blue striped dress but also means you’ll probably get a mouthful for not being completely honest.
Door B leads to the blonde who’ll take everything you say. The advantage: when you tell her she looks gorgeous in that hideous purple hat. she’ll buy it.
At the same time, you’ll be lying your anus off to her your entire life.(that might do some damage to your conscience)
You pick.
But in my books…a liar is a liar no matter in what form he comes in.
If anytime throughout this post, did you hold your breath, or your mouth hung open or your pupils dilated that means you are a victim of harassive dating habits.
Remember, denial is not the answer. so take the advice. You know you need it.
neither!i bend them a lil :P
ReplyDeletehehe great post,btw!